Ok so I met this guy. We completely hit it off. We have had 5 dates in 9 days. He was telling me how gorgeous, interesting, fun and smart I am. I thought the same. Obviously we have tons of chemistry since we've had so many dates. Then he got caught in a lie...he told me his engagement ended months ago, when really it was like 3-4 weeks ago. But he said it was practically over 4 mo. ago because she cheated. So he got caught. I forgave him, but now he called me clingy! Since he was the one inviting ME on so many dates I didn't think calling him once a day and text messaging occasionally was horrible. He said he needs time ( and I understand that) and can't make any committments. I never even asked for a committment! I just like hanging out with me and want to see what happens. I have put 0 pressure on the future of our relationship. Help me to not be 'clingy', even though I don't think I am. What should I do?Dating Advice?
It sounds to me like you are doing nothing wrong. I think he needs time to get over what has happened- I imagine it wouldn't be easy to move on from an engagement so soon. It sounds like now that he has been caught lying he is being defensive and accusing you of imaginary problems. I think if you really like this guy then give him some space and stick around a bit, but the most important thing is that you are happy, and it might be better to leave now then later- it wouldn't hurt for you to see other people if he can't make up his mind- it's not like you are both commited to each other.
Good luck and I am sure you will be fine either way because you sound like you are still a happy person with decent expectation.Dating Advice?
WoW five dates in nine days. Thats hardly enough time to get serious about anyone. Just try being his friend not his girl friend. Obviously he's hurting from his prior relationship if he was serious about marrying her and she cheated. I'm sure that put a damper on being real serious about someone else so quickly. Try to understand his state of mind right now verses letting yourself get serious about him. Don't let your feelings and emotions get so rapped up. I think your both going into the relationship with different motives. Sounds like you would like more than just a friendship and hes just looking for a friend.
Advice: have a platonic relationship untill you really get to know one another. What's the rush? Too many people rush into relationships, become sexually involved only to find out that had they just gotten to know the person long enough they could have determined that he or shes not the one with out having sex. Be smart. don't let your emotions rule you choices nor decisions.
ignore him for a while he will come running back
Play hard to get. Pretend you couldn't care less if you never hear from him again. Don't call him or text him. I bet he's thrown for quite a loop and comes knocking pretty quickly.
Give him his space. If it was meant to be it will happen.
your not clingy...he's insecure...
Back off a little. Take a break from him. You are not going to change his mind about the definition of 'clingy' or whether he 'should' feel that way or not, so whether or not you think you were doesn't really matter here. The other person's perception is just as valid as your own when your are talk about relationship dynamics. It takes both people to make it work. He seams to want a little less attention from you, this is not a good sign for a relationship. If you still want to have something with him, then you need to respect that. Give him the time and then see where you are.
Of course, the extra time away from him should also give you the chance to think about whether or not you really want to be around someone that does not want you as much as you want them.
you're not being clingy....he's messed up, he lied from the beginning....MOVE ON!
let him have his freedom for a while. of course, dont let him run off with ';others'; just take a step back and start again a little slower! :)
Don't use words like '; the future of our relationship'; around him.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Dating advice?
Well here's the scoop. My freind tried to ask out a girl last year, he got nervous and said ';My friend invited me to a group date , but i don't have a date, do you wanna come?'; She said yes not knowing it was a date, just a friend get-together (cause they were close friends) He later came up to me and explained his situation and me being the good friend I am I went with him, but there was a drawback... I had no date.
I told him that and he flipped, so I grew the man-stones to tell her I didn't have a date, she just recently dumped me. So she had a friend who was looking for a BF, so I bit the bullet and said why not.
3 days passed and time came around, I put on my best DIY suit 'n slacks (yes i am a thread head, go to threadbanger.com 4 details) and met 'em at the theatre. What I saw almost made me cry... An EXTREMELY hot emo-chick, brown hair with auburn highlights, ripped-to-shred jeans and nicest body. Little did I know it was a setup. she liked me. cont. later on YahooAnsw.Dating advice?
i dont get it?
I told him that and he flipped, so I grew the man-stones to tell her I didn't have a date, she just recently dumped me. So she had a friend who was looking for a BF, so I bit the bullet and said why not.
3 days passed and time came around, I put on my best DIY suit 'n slacks (yes i am a thread head, go to threadbanger.com 4 details) and met 'em at the theatre. What I saw almost made me cry... An EXTREMELY hot emo-chick, brown hair with auburn highlights, ripped-to-shred jeans and nicest body. Little did I know it was a setup. she liked me. cont. later on YahooAnsw.Dating advice?
i dont get it?
Dating advice part 2. (please read my first question)?
My last question left out some details, so here they are. This girl that I have hooked up with supports her boyfriend, he doesn't work. She already knows how I feel about her for the most part and has made it very clear to me that her feelings are similar. However, she is scared to leave because it is all she has known for so long, and she doesn't want to hurt him. Although he treats her horrible, she still does care some. Most of the last answers I got were to just tell her how I feel, but since she already knows that, should I just wait for it to play out on its own? Should I just tell her EXACTLY how I feel and how I believe she deserves to be treated better than she currently is? I think the guilt of her hooking up with me may be pushing her away, and although I don't think that either of us did anything wrong, I can understand why she may feel guilt. I would really like to see things work out with this girl, but I just don't know how to play my cards right in this case.Dating advice part 2. (please read my first question)?
try telling her how u exactly feel and move on from there... if the boyfriend treats her badly tell her she doesnt diserve that and that u can treat her well and support her. if she is just afraid of breaking up with him then keep (if any) threats from him (notes, phone calls, texts, etc.) and she can get a restraining order...
best of luck
try telling her how u exactly feel and move on from there... if the boyfriend treats her badly tell her she doesnt diserve that and that u can treat her well and support her. if she is just afraid of breaking up with him then keep (if any) threats from him (notes, phone calls, texts, etc.) and she can get a restraining order...
best of luck
Dating advice girls :)?
So I just got to college this first week I hungout with this girl everyday and she has a bf is she just using me for a friend or does it mean theres more there i know i didnt give many details but i just want to know if you would hangout with a guy u wuldnt hook up cus in a guys mind if you chill with a girl for a week u wuld probaly hookup / wana dateDating advice girls :)?
are ye takin the piss out of willy the tranny scotsman?
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It's been a week! She has a boyfriend! It's called being friends, not everyone jumps into things like you do apparantly.
ya if you hang out with that girl all the time, i think she would eventually like start to like you
Girls can be JUST friends with a guy.
Answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
are ye takin the piss out of willy the tranny scotsman?
http://wwwdelivery.superstock.com/WI/223/1558/PreviewComp/SuperStock_1558-04398.jpgDating advice girls :)?
It's been a week! She has a boyfriend! It's called being friends, not everyone jumps into things like you do apparantly.
ya if you hang out with that girl all the time, i think she would eventually like start to like you
Girls can be JUST friends with a guy.
Answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Dating advice?
im 14 and my girlfriend just left the state on vacation she left yesterday and is getting there today she told me to call her a half hour after she is suposed to get there wat am i supose to say wen she answeres%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; then should i call her every day or should i call her every other day or wat %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; then when she gets bac should i ask her out that first day or wate a few days or till she asks meDating advice?
she's your girlfriend. call her whenever you feel like you want to talk to her or see her. she can call you too, you know.Dating advice?
LISTEN TO YOUR HEART YOUR YOUNG STILL LET HER KNOW YOUR THINKING OF HER AND LIVE YOUR LIFE PLAN DREAM YOUR YOUNG ONCE
that is not a question. we do not pay the telephone bill. I feel bad for your parents.eye makeup
she's your girlfriend. call her whenever you feel like you want to talk to her or see her. she can call you too, you know.Dating advice?
LISTEN TO YOUR HEART YOUR YOUNG STILL LET HER KNOW YOUR THINKING OF HER AND LIVE YOUR LIFE PLAN DREAM YOUR YOUNG ONCE
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that is not a question. we do not pay the telephone bill. I feel bad for your parents.
SINGLE MOMS: divorced mom of two needs dating advice!?
i have been divorced from my abusive and irresponsible ex-husband for 8 months now and have adjusted to being the only provider and parent of my two great girls. i have graduated college and started my new career, decorated my new apartment and had a wonderful makeover. i'm doing well, except...
i am now ready to date again. i have no clue as to how to go about meeting men to date, or telling men gently that i have two children that mean the world to me. i don't want to date a man who has children, just a personal preference i have. is it worth looking for a decent guy who is willing to date a single mom? or will i be wasting my time? any advice to give me?SINGLE MOMS: divorced mom of two needs dating advice!?
am so proud of you for being strong, and a great role model!
You have made wonderful choices.
You are going to HATE my answer, but it's given from one single mom to another who's been there (and still am!).
WAIT!
Wait until your beautiful girls are out of school, raised and 18 years old.
They have been through a horrible ordeal with the abuse and divorce, and don't need to deal with moms romantic life.
Your girls will feel more important to you if you wait, because your attention won't be divided.
They won't have to deal with drama from the boyfriends.
There will be no chance of them (GOD forbid) being molested by a man whom you trust... and I have seen it personally too many times!
They won't get attached to another man, only to see him move on when it doesn't work out.
I beg of you to at least consider my advice.
I have been there and my daughter has been very negatively affected by my bad choices.
Just wait a few more years until they are grown.
Focus on being the wonderful MOMMY that you have showed yourself to be so far...
Don't let a man come in and possibly ruin the good work you have done.
I know it's lonely, and it's nice to have some female friends you can count on... but it's worth it!
Good luck to you and your girls!SINGLE MOMS: divorced mom of two needs dating advice!?
Ya one advice DON'T do the whole bar thing!
ask your girlfriends if they know someone they think will be a good match for you.
well of course it's worth looking honey...it's just a matter of where you're gonna look.....stay away from the whole barscene, who wants some drunken schmukk for the long haul? Try volunteering at your daughter's school, or anywhere for that matter, get involved with your church and if you aren't religious then just pick something....you'll find you're going to attract more men the more confident you are, so it sounds like you're off to an excellent start! Just make sure you know exactly what you want this time and do not cave in to loneliness.....that guy is out there who is going to love your precious girls just like they were his very own!
And congrats on doing so well....I too am a single mom of two very young children...haven't even picked out a new career to go with but your story has totally encouraged me! thank you!
A decent guy for you is out there.
Check out grocery stores, department stores, bookstores, etc.
hmmmmm, so you are a woman with kids but you don't want to date any guys with kids? how hypocritical that is
sorry, but i refuse to help someone like that
CREATE A MYSPACE....I WAS NOT EVEN LOOKING TO DATE AND I HAVE FOUR KIDS AND THE MAN OF MY DREAMS HAS NONE OF HIS OWN AND WE ARE HAPPILY EVER AFTER...
Mans side. Me and a bit of my friends (married now) when we were single had no problem dating women that have children. When you are a little older and single that is just how a bit of the women are. Just don't shove the lovely children at us. We understand they are your world and come first. Even nice to meet and see them if they are nice. What ever your hobbies are and you do for fun is where you met guys and ask or get asked out. It does not hurt to ask a guy if he would like to get a coffee (drink of what ever kind) or lunch sometime. Good luck it is not as bad as most women fret.
I had that same problem too. I didn't have any luck with meeting anyone! So I decided to try Yahoo Personals. I know, it's kinda weird, but guess what? I found my husband there. Just be careful, they do have strange people there too.
You seem to still have one issue unresolved. If you want a man who is willing to accept that you have two children. Why is it you refuse to date a man who may have children?
i am now ready to date again. i have no clue as to how to go about meeting men to date, or telling men gently that i have two children that mean the world to me. i don't want to date a man who has children, just a personal preference i have. is it worth looking for a decent guy who is willing to date a single mom? or will i be wasting my time? any advice to give me?SINGLE MOMS: divorced mom of two needs dating advice!?
am so proud of you for being strong, and a great role model!
You have made wonderful choices.
You are going to HATE my answer, but it's given from one single mom to another who's been there (and still am!).
WAIT!
Wait until your beautiful girls are out of school, raised and 18 years old.
They have been through a horrible ordeal with the abuse and divorce, and don't need to deal with moms romantic life.
Your girls will feel more important to you if you wait, because your attention won't be divided.
They won't have to deal with drama from the boyfriends.
There will be no chance of them (GOD forbid) being molested by a man whom you trust... and I have seen it personally too many times!
They won't get attached to another man, only to see him move on when it doesn't work out.
I beg of you to at least consider my advice.
I have been there and my daughter has been very negatively affected by my bad choices.
Just wait a few more years until they are grown.
Focus on being the wonderful MOMMY that you have showed yourself to be so far...
Don't let a man come in and possibly ruin the good work you have done.
I know it's lonely, and it's nice to have some female friends you can count on... but it's worth it!
Good luck to you and your girls!SINGLE MOMS: divorced mom of two needs dating advice!?
Ya one advice DON'T do the whole bar thing!
ask your girlfriends if they know someone they think will be a good match for you.
well of course it's worth looking honey...it's just a matter of where you're gonna look.....stay away from the whole barscene, who wants some drunken schmukk for the long haul? Try volunteering at your daughter's school, or anywhere for that matter, get involved with your church and if you aren't religious then just pick something....you'll find you're going to attract more men the more confident you are, so it sounds like you're off to an excellent start! Just make sure you know exactly what you want this time and do not cave in to loneliness.....that guy is out there who is going to love your precious girls just like they were his very own!
And congrats on doing so well....I too am a single mom of two very young children...haven't even picked out a new career to go with but your story has totally encouraged me! thank you!
A decent guy for you is out there.
Check out grocery stores, department stores, bookstores, etc.
hmmmmm, so you are a woman with kids but you don't want to date any guys with kids? how hypocritical that is
sorry, but i refuse to help someone like that
CREATE A MYSPACE....I WAS NOT EVEN LOOKING TO DATE AND I HAVE FOUR KIDS AND THE MAN OF MY DREAMS HAS NONE OF HIS OWN AND WE ARE HAPPILY EVER AFTER...
Mans side. Me and a bit of my friends (married now) when we were single had no problem dating women that have children. When you are a little older and single that is just how a bit of the women are. Just don't shove the lovely children at us. We understand they are your world and come first. Even nice to meet and see them if they are nice. What ever your hobbies are and you do for fun is where you met guys and ask or get asked out. It does not hurt to ask a guy if he would like to get a coffee (drink of what ever kind) or lunch sometime. Good luck it is not as bad as most women fret.
I had that same problem too. I didn't have any luck with meeting anyone! So I decided to try Yahoo Personals. I know, it's kinda weird, but guess what? I found my husband there. Just be careful, they do have strange people there too.
You seem to still have one issue unresolved. If you want a man who is willing to accept that you have two children. Why is it you refuse to date a man who may have children?
Dating Advice?
Ok so I met this guy. We completely hit it off. We have had 5 dates in 9 days. He was telling me how gorgeous, interesting, fun and smart I am. I thought the same. Obviously we have tons of chemistry since we've had so many dates. Then he got caught in a lie...he told me his engagement ended months ago, when really it was like 3-4 weeks ago. But he said it was practically over 4 mo. ago because she cheated. So he got caught. I forgave him, but now he called me clingy! Since he was the one inviting ME on so many dates I didn't think calling him once a day and text messaging occasionally was horrible. He said he needs time ( and I understand that) and can't make any committments. I never even asked for a committment! I just like hanging out with me and want to see what happens. I have put 0 pressure on the future of our relationship. Help me to not be 'clingy', even though I don't think I am. What should I do?Dating Advice?
It sounds to me like you are doing nothing wrong. I think he needs time to get over what has happened- I imagine it wouldn't be easy to move on from an engagement so soon. It sounds like now that he has been caught lying he is being defensive and accusing you of imaginary problems. I think if you really like this guy then give him some space and stick around a bit, but the most important thing is that you are happy, and it might be better to leave now then later- it wouldn't hurt for you to see other people if he can't make up his mind- it's not like you are both commited to each other.
Good luck and I am sure you will be fine either way because you sound like you are still a happy person with decent expectation.Dating Advice?
WoW five dates in nine days. Thats hardly enough time to get serious about anyone. Just try being his friend not his girl friend. Obviously he's hurting from his prior relationship if he was serious about marrying her and she cheated. I'm sure that put a damper on being real serious about someone else so quickly. Try to understand his state of mind right now verses letting yourself get serious about him. Don't let your feelings and emotions get so rapped up. I think your both going into the relationship with different motives. Sounds like you would like more than just a friendship and hes just looking for a friend.
Advice: have a platonic relationship untill you really get to know one another. What's the rush? Too many people rush into relationships, become sexually involved only to find out that had they just gotten to know the person long enough they could have determined that he or shes not the one with out having sex. Be smart. don't let your emotions rule you choices nor decisions.
ignore him for a while he will come running back
Play hard to get. Pretend you couldn't care less if you never hear from him again. Don't call him or text him. I bet he's thrown for quite a loop and comes knocking pretty quickly.
Give him his space. If it was meant to be it will happen.
your not clingy...he's insecure...
Back off a little. Take a break from him. You are not going to change his mind about the definition of 'clingy' or whether he 'should' feel that way or not, so whether or not you think you were doesn't really matter here. The other person's perception is just as valid as your own when your are talk about relationship dynamics. It takes both people to make it work. He seams to want a little less attention from you, this is not a good sign for a relationship. If you still want to have something with him, then you need to respect that. Give him the time and then see where you are.
Of course, the extra time away from him should also give you the chance to think about whether or not you really want to be around someone that does not want you as much as you want them.
you're not being clingy....he's messed up, he lied from the beginning....MOVE ON!
let him have his freedom for a while. of course, dont let him run off with ';others'; just take a step back and start again a little slower! :)
Don't use words like '; the future of our relationship'; around him.
It sounds to me like you are doing nothing wrong. I think he needs time to get over what has happened- I imagine it wouldn't be easy to move on from an engagement so soon. It sounds like now that he has been caught lying he is being defensive and accusing you of imaginary problems. I think if you really like this guy then give him some space and stick around a bit, but the most important thing is that you are happy, and it might be better to leave now then later- it wouldn't hurt for you to see other people if he can't make up his mind- it's not like you are both commited to each other.
Good luck and I am sure you will be fine either way because you sound like you are still a happy person with decent expectation.Dating Advice?
WoW five dates in nine days. Thats hardly enough time to get serious about anyone. Just try being his friend not his girl friend. Obviously he's hurting from his prior relationship if he was serious about marrying her and she cheated. I'm sure that put a damper on being real serious about someone else so quickly. Try to understand his state of mind right now verses letting yourself get serious about him. Don't let your feelings and emotions get so rapped up. I think your both going into the relationship with different motives. Sounds like you would like more than just a friendship and hes just looking for a friend.
Advice: have a platonic relationship untill you really get to know one another. What's the rush? Too many people rush into relationships, become sexually involved only to find out that had they just gotten to know the person long enough they could have determined that he or shes not the one with out having sex. Be smart. don't let your emotions rule you choices nor decisions.
ignore him for a while he will come running back
Play hard to get. Pretend you couldn't care less if you never hear from him again. Don't call him or text him. I bet he's thrown for quite a loop and comes knocking pretty quickly.
Give him his space. If it was meant to be it will happen.
your not clingy...he's insecure...
Back off a little. Take a break from him. You are not going to change his mind about the definition of 'clingy' or whether he 'should' feel that way or not, so whether or not you think you were doesn't really matter here. The other person's perception is just as valid as your own when your are talk about relationship dynamics. It takes both people to make it work. He seams to want a little less attention from you, this is not a good sign for a relationship. If you still want to have something with him, then you need to respect that. Give him the time and then see where you are.
Of course, the extra time away from him should also give you the chance to think about whether or not you really want to be around someone that does not want you as much as you want them.
you're not being clingy....he's messed up, he lied from the beginning....MOVE ON!
let him have his freedom for a while. of course, dont let him run off with ';others'; just take a step back and start again a little slower! :)
Don't use words like '; the future of our relationship'; around him.
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